If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse. – Jim Rohn
I am known for being the “kaladkarin” in our group. I would love to join every “lakad” my friends and office mates have. I would never turn down an invitation. It bothers me to turn someone down. However, I can’t always say “yes” every time my friends want to make plans. I can get away with honesty to few close friends. But for anyone else, I am obliged to come up with a better excuse for they will never understand me. No is just a small word, but it holds so much power. The hardest thing wasn’t declining offers, it is wondering what to do when everyone else is out.
It has always been wrong to decline with an excuse. Knowing how to decline helps avoid hurt feelings. But it is perfectly fine to say,
- You have other plans for that particular time. You don’t have to explain any further. Otherwise, it will sound like you are trying to come up with excuses.
- You feel tired and exhausted. You are taking the time of and badly need a quiet time.
- You just can’t afford it. This is the main reason why I can’t join them and why I love staying more at home. It is embarrassing. But it is just not in the budget right now.
- Or just tell them the truth. If they are true friends, they will understand whatever reason you really have. You don’t have to come up with another reason just to cover up.
You don’t want to, is more than enough reason in itself. Voicing what you really have in mind need no excuses. Declining an invitation doesn’t mean rejecting that person or group.